Don't believe agency and adopter promises that "Open Adoption" will let you see your baby. The truth is in most cases
open adoption is a myth in order to get mothers to surrender their babies in order for agencies to make more money and for
adopters to obtain children.
Once a baby is relinquished for adoption, adopters have all of the parental rights to that child and adopters hold all
of the cards when it comes to parental rights. In reality once a baby is relinquished for adoption, the natural parents
loose all of their rights to have contact with their child. In most states if the adopters never intended for the adoption
to remain open in the first place, then the natural parents are out of luck!
Even well intended adopters who initially are willing to keep the adoption open will close it if they feel threatened in
any way by the natural parents and by the bond the natural parent has toward the child.
In order to keep an open adoption from closing, natural parents have to be slaves to the adopters' wishes in terms of how
much contact is allowed and if there are contact visits, the adopters determine how the natural parent is to behave toward
that child. If the visit doesn't go like the adopter thinks it should, then the adopter will normally use that as a
reason for closing the adoption. If the natural parent displeases the adopters or shows love toward the child in any
way, the adopters can close the adoption. This happens in more than 80% of all open
It is estimated that over 80% of all "open adotions" close! Don't be exiled from your child!