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Exiled Mothers

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Mothers are loosing their children all of the time to the adoption industry

No exiled mother willingly surrendered their children to adoption.  They didn't "give their children away."  Exhiled mother's babies are NOT gifts.  Exiled mother's babies are NOT unwanted. 


Mothers are exiled from their babies NOT because they were prooven unfit, but because they are vulnerable (young, unwed, sick or poor).  Exiled mothers are lied to by social workers, adopters, adoption agencies and even the church in order for adopters to obtain their babies. 
Mothers don't have a choice when surrendering their babies.  They are coerced or outright forced into surrendering their babies for adoption. 
Exiled mothers are women who WANTED to keep their babies, but because of factors such as being unwed, poor, or sick, their babies were taken by force, coercion and lies.
Some mothers are still drugged when they are forced to sign the papers relinquishing their parental rights.  Others are told that they will never see their child again unless they sign the papers to surrender their child for adoption.  Others were told they would not be allowed to see their babies unless they signed the papers.  Still others, never signed but the mother's parents signed away their children. 
All mothers are NEVER told the truth about the consequences of adoption to them or their babies.  Instead, they were delibertly lied to. 
Children are taken from their mothers so that the adoption industry can make money by playing the role of savior to infertile couples by selling the "ultimate gift" to them at the mother's expense.  Then the adoption industry comes out "smelling like a rose" for solving the welfare and moral problems of society.  It really all comes down to money.... keeping the mothers off welfare and making money for the adoption brokers. 
The adoption industry tells mothers that they will forget.  Mothers are told to "get over it."  They are told "put it behind you."  Mothers are told to "get on with their lives."  The children are told that "their mother gave them away." 
Exiled mothers never forget.  They never stop loving their babies.  They never stop missing their babies. 
Exiled mother: A natural mother who has lost her child to adoption solely because of her age and/or lack of support, information or resources. An unrecognized mother, she has been thrown away, banished and discarded by her parents, the adoption industry and society, who deemed her unworthy to raise her own child.

The adoption industry has socieity believing that adoption is a "good thing" and is in the best interest of the child.  Their words conjure up images of birds singing, rainbows, and cotton candy.  Society does not question this or else socieity would realize that it is in the best interest of the child to be with his or her mother. 
Damage done from separation is irrevocable.  The toll on emotional health creates "special needs" children.  There is no such thing as a "healthy baby" who is separated from his or her mother. 
No matter how much the adopters love and want that child, most adopters are blind to the pain of the child who is separated from his or her mother.  This does not make for good parents. 

The terms "birthmothers", "birthmoms" "birthparents" "birthmother" "birthmom" "birthparent""dear birthmother" "dear birthparent" are used on this page for search engine placement ONLY.  A mother is a mother not an object meant to be used as the source of a baby for adoption.